I will make you proud: A Eulogy For My Mom
The Reality
I’d like to start with what I am most grateful for. I’m very grateful for my family. I am very grateful for the many loving friends I have met over my years here on Earth, and of whom the past few weeks have prayed and supported me as I struggled with my Mom’s sudden and unexpected health decline and subsequent hospital stay. My family and my friends were all there with my Dad and I, in the hope and belief that even though she was 92, she would pull through and be home soon, and still had some years left! The reality was, she was in worse condition than we knew. At one point she looked as though she was starting to transition to a release to go home. I am also extremely grateful that my family, friends, and some folks I didn’t even know, were there for us with their tremendous love and support on Facebook, this was not only humbling but inspiring. Thank you all for taking the time to do that. It means a lot to both myself and my Dad.
Admittedly, this is a very emotional and challenging time for me. I’ve struggled to understand and accept this situation. Losing your mom is a deeply painful experience. It comes with a hurricane of emotions, processing, and reflection. What could I have done, I should have done this, or I wish I had only said or done that, but alas, I know now that in the end God came and took her because of her because it was time.
My mind wants to reject it all. But this is the reality. My mom is no longer with us in this world.
I don’t know how you can summarize or speak to your entire life. There are so many intricacies. People are dynamic and their relationship with the world is infinitely complex. My Mom was a unique person who was more than any of us can fully comprehend or speak to.
So today I’m going to share my relationship with my Mom. I hope you come away with a greater appreciation for what an incredible and inspiring woman she sincerely was.
Belief, Compassion, And Authenticity
When I reflect on my childhood, my mom’s presence was the only consistency. I don’t have any siblings. My biological father wasn’t around. And the world that my mom and I took on, was constantly changing and frankly, never very easy.
We endured many challenges together, but somehow it all worked. It worked because we were not alone. We had each other, and when I was five years old, my Mom met and later married my Dad, Frank Charles Smith. Our togetherness, the three of us, enabled us to navigate the constant change and to conquer the challenges. It gave us an invulnerable strength. That strength endures. It’s with me today.
In our time together, my Mom taught me some of life’s most important lessons. And she did so in a unique, but powerful way. Rarely, if ever, did she preach a specific message or compel me to act in a certain manner.
Rather, my mom inspired and influenced me through her actions. With her words, she was humble and caring, in her actions she was bold and powerful.
I’ll speak about three lessons my mom taught me that stick with me today.
Belief
The first lesson my mom taught me was the power of belief. During my entire life, she reiterated one thing: her absolute and unshakable belief in me. The ability that anything you can think of, you can accomplish, but you had to have the belief that you could.
No matter the endeavor – attend an elite university, work on Wall Street, travel the world – she believed in me. She never questioned the things that I wanted or choose to do. She trusted and believed I would make the right decision and accomplish anything I set my mind to. If I was down and out, she would always remind me that “Tomorrow is a new day”.
By believing in me with full confidence and trust, she cultivated the belief within me that I could do anything. That belief is powerful. Belief is everything.
Writer James Allen tells us that “The will to do springs from the knowledge that we can do.” (As Man Thinketh) In other words, our ability and desire to do things are born in our knowledge that we can do things.
Many of us struggle in this domain. We question our abilities. We think we aren’t as intelligent or as skilled as others. We say we aren’t ready or capable.
These narratives we tell ourselves are dangerous. They are myths rooted in a lack of belief. And without belief, we don’t take action. We don’t take the necessary leaps to create truly fulfilling and inspiring lives. We never master the art of fulfillment.
Fortunately, I had my Mom, and of course my incredible Dad as well. I had her absolute belief. I had her full trust and support. When I failed, she would pick me up, brushed me off, and said try a little harder. “Anything difficult takes a little time”, she would say, “And anything impossible will take a little longer”.
When anyone dared to question my abilities, my Mom would happily correct them. When I achieved anything, whether it was big or small, she would tell the whole world. She was immensely proud. She was a true believer and protector, a Pitbull Mom, a Mother Bear, and her Cub.
With all of these actions, she created the belief that drives me today. I think this is the best thing you can do for anyone. Believe in them. Let them surprise you with how far that belief can go. I passed that same ideology on to my children, Mom’s beloved Grandchildren, who survive her and were always the apple of her eye; Dylan Michael Kerr, Alexis Marie Kerr, and Christiaan Alexander Kerr.
Compassion
The second lesson my Mom taught me, was the power of compassion. She is the most compassionate person I have ever known.
According to writer Eckhart Tolle, compassion is “The awareness of a deep bond between yourself and all creatures.” (The Power of Now)
My mom embodied this understanding of compassion. In our family, she was the most thoughtful, kind, and loving soul. Thankfully, yet another attribute I learned from Mom too, and maybe as she said, sometimes to a fault.
She listened without judgment. She gave without expectation. She helped out because it was the right thing to do. She was honest because there was no other way to be.
Growing up, we never had much money. But my mom never complained about this. She would literally give you her last dollar. And for me, many times she did. She would sacrifice eating lunch or buying clothes and things for herself, just to buy me things because I was as she said, the love of her life, her “Little Piece of Americana.
Even if she wasn’t feeling well, my Mom would write me a kind note or buy me a bar of chocolate just to say she loved me.
In her career working as a first-class waitress with Moore McCormick shipping lines, she sailed the Seven Seas. She traveled to all the exotic places she only dreamt of seeing one day as a passionate little girl who lost her mother when she was only 15. She was a leader among her peers and was always the go-to gal on the ships that her associates clamored up to seek her advice and guidance. She outlived practically all but one of those friends who she remained in contact with up until her being rushed to the hospital on May 2nd, 2021.
She always thought I was the star of the show, but without knowing it, she was the star, wherever she went. She was the one who brought joy, compassion, and love to the lives of so many people that she met over the years, and Mom stayed in touch with them all. She brightened everyone’s life because of her compassion. She demonstrated that she cared. She listened. She held them if they were upset. She advocated for them, she advocated for everyone! The Dalai Lama tells us “If you want others to be happy practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” My mom did just that. I hope we can all do the same.
Authenticity
The third lesson my mom taught me was the power of authenticity. She was a free, authentic, and genuine spirit. The poet May Sarton said that “We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” My Mom lived this way. She didn’t stand behind the restrictive social walls we all like to build. If she wanted to say or do something, she did. Instead of judging people, she sought to understand them.
Fortunately, my mom taught me how to live authentically too, and be comfortable with that. She lived by her own code. Because of her, I now embrace difference. I choose courage over comfort. I live by my own rules.
Moving Forward
As I wrap up, I’d like to share a few thoughts on death and how we can all move forward. After all, death is the reason I am writing this Eulogy. Our friend and my mom, Christina Mary Maypother-Smith, have passed. This is a reality that we all need to understand and process, myself especially.
It’s circumstances like these that often allow us to step back from the day-to-day noise and reflect. I reflect daily on my mom’s passing. When I wake up, it’s the first thing on my mind. During the day, there are infinite reminders. When I go to sleep, it’s the last thing I think of. But I’m confident I’m not alone in this. I’m not the only one processing. And I’d like to share some wisdom that has given me strength and courage during my own journey with Mom’s life and her recent untimely passing.
In his commencement speech to Stanford graduates in 2005, the Founder of Apple, Steve Jobs, spoke about his relationship with death: “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.” For Steve Jobs, recognizing his own mortality every day was a tool to focus on what really mattered in life. He confronted death 6 years later, and sadly, he passed away after leaving his footprint all over the World.
The Stoic philosophers of ancient Greece and Rome shared this pragmatic view on death. They encouraged us to keep our own mortality in mind at all times. In doing so, we could better appreciate life for what it is and find peace with the many adversities we all face. Most of us prefer to ignore that one day we will no longer be here. It can be scary. No one wants to die. But our time here is limited. One day we will no longer be here.
Like the Stoic philosophers and Steve Jobs, I have found strength and courage in accepting my own mortality. If you are struggling, I encourage you to consider doing the same. By openly embracing our own mortality, we can focus on what really matters. We can glide past the petty frustrations of daily life, live the story that brings us immense joy and fulfillment, and spend our finite time with the people we love the most. I know my mom would support this approach. She never liked to see me down. So, instead, I am choosing to fully embrace life while I still have the opportunity to do so. I am choosing to celebrate her life and find inspiration in her teachings. I am choosing to practice compassion, believe, and live authentically. Of course, I’m going to miss her. How could I not? It’s my Mom. But I know she will always be with me. Her belief, compassion, and authenticity will always be by my side and in my heart. It is for that reason I am deeply grateful and indebted to my Mom. Thanks, mom.
The last thing my mom said to me was, “I love you with all my heart and soul.” I love you too mom. I will make you proud.
With Love to you all,
Digby R. Kerr
Alexis Kerr
June 8, 2021, 5:08 pm
Nanny I’ll always remember the amazing stories you had in your life, especially the ones where you were a true boss of a woman. You worked so hard in your life to get where you were. Quite the successful woman. Nanny, you always knew how to tell a great story and you were an amazing cook. You were an amazing grandmother too and I only wish I got to see you one more time. I’ll always have the Paddington Bear to remember you by that you worked so hard to get for me. Thank you for being such an amazing grandmother I’ll always love you and I’ll miss you dearly.
Susan Novick
June 8, 2021, 5:25 pm
My condolences to you and your family. Words are hard at times like this. You’re all in my prayers at this time.
Ronnie James “Dio / Spidey” Perez
June 8, 2021, 5:29 pm
I remember meeting her for the first time when we were in or around 7th grade. Lovely quick witted woman. Had a drink in her hand. Actually, all the grown ups had a drink in their hands. Lol. We were basically looking at ourselves when we got older .. but just then. She never judged anyone. Always loved all of Digby’s friends. Just a kind kind person. It’s nice to see that we hand down those traits to our offspring the way she did to him. My condolences, but I’d like everyone, especially my brother (from another Mother) Digby to remember this: A lot of us were robbed of our time with our parents. Many of them passed when we were just kids. I know this doesn’t make it any easier, but I am so so happy for the time you had with her & she with you. I’m sure others will echo my sentiments. Cherish those memories. God bless and now she can watch over you as your guardian Angel free of her mortal bonds. We love you.
Antonio Arreguin
June 8, 2021, 5:50 pm
Dear Digby,
Your Mom was an incredible person, very happy, smart and full with love. I’ll always remember her laughing and talking with me.
She treated me like a son when I was in FL.
I will always remembered the good times and the advices she gave me.
Your Mom will be missed by many of us.
My prayers for you, your Dad and the kids during this hard time.
❤️🙏🏼
Tony Celii
June 8, 2021, 5:54 pm
Prayers for you and your family Digby, you Mom sound like a very special and loving woman. May God’s embrace be everlasting.
Love,
Tony C
Pamela Delany
June 8, 2021, 6:23 pm
Will miss my lovely friend Christina. The lovely stories she used to tell about the interesting life she had experienced, never got bored listening to them. She travelled far and wide and made some great friends and had some wonderful stories to tell. Rest in peace my friend and enjoy your final journey, you will always be in our thoughts. Until we meet again.
Love Pamela and Michael ❤️ xx
Kimberly Seamour (Lipford)
June 8, 2021, 7:40 pm
So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Kathleen and the Squire
June 8, 2021, 7:58 pm
As I look back over the years, it is hard to say how much she meant to me, my husband, who knew her before I did, and my mother and sister, who loved her through all the ordeals. They were soul mates, secrete keepers. Between them, they could and did take on the world. Anyone who knew your mum would know she had a formidable memory. My mother would say, “ask the elephant; she never forgets,” and Chris never did.
Digby. Do you remember us all sitting around in my mother’s house in Borehamwood? You would be about 5 or younger, and we would all bet on the horse racing? Only a penny was bet by all of us (10) altogether. We all had a stack of coins. We would pick the horses, select the odds and send Pauline and her husband to place the bets. We hooped and hollered thru each race. We passed many a rainy afternoon at the races. Ah yes, it was illegal for you three kids to be betting, but who is go😂ing to tell! We all managed to win at least one race. I never understood how Chris did it, but somewhere along the way, sandwiches and other goodies would appear out of nowhere. Such fun.
Bill and I will miss her, here for you whenever needed.
Kathleen Wiersberg
June 8, 2021, 8:04 pm
Such a very special lady. Loved her since the day I met her in NYC in 1965, Such memories.
We are here for you whenever you and your dad need us. And Thanks Frank for teaching Bill how to use a hammer!!!!
Love from all the Wiersberg’s.
Ann Marie Daum
June 8, 2021, 10:04 pm
Dig your, what a beautiful and insightful tribute to your Mother. God bless you and your family during this heartbreaking time. Prayers and love. Ann Marie xoxo
Gerald Dillon
June 8, 2021, 10:35 pm
Hi Digby,
So sorry for your loss and you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. I lost my Dad 10 years ago and sometimes still find it hard to believe that he is no longer with us but it does get better, the shock goes away and although one never quite gets over such a terrible loss life does go on.
One of the clearest memories of your Mom was when we were just starting in High School and I came over, I believe with Bill and I think it was the first time I was at your apartment. Walking in I remember seeing the commemorative plates up on the walls of the Queen, Charles & Princess Di, it felt like a proper English home! I met your Mom that day and what a sweet gracious women she was, I felt at home and at ease immediately. And let me tell you, she made Swedish meatballs for us and no kidding they were the best I’ve ever had.
We want all whom we love to live forever and they will as long as we remember them in our hearts.
You’ll get thru this with the love of your beautiful family and your many friends, some new and some old like me!
Friends forever Digby. God bless and God bless your Mother Christina.
Catherine St George
June 8, 2021, 11:32 pm
Please accept my most heartfelt sympathies for the loss of your mother. What a great woman and an amazing life. I’m so grateful to her for bringing you into this world, you are such a good friend and you’ve been a wonderful son to your mother. Sending love and prayers to you and your family.
By Jeff Batter
June 8, 2021, 11:39 pm
Digby, my deepest condolences to you, your Dad, and the rest of your family. Your eloquent tribute gave great testimony to a wonderful woman. You mom embodied the best qualities humankind has to offer. May memory be, forever, a blessing and a source of comfort, always.
Jody Ritter
June 9, 2021, 1:50 am
I am so sorry for your loss. I did not know your mom but what you wrote brought me to tears. You were so blessed to have each other. Love lasts forever and she will always be in your heart. Take care
Bonnie Federico
June 9, 2021, 4:09 am
To My Lady Christina: May you have the Glory In His Presence. Amen..I had the pleasure of Meeting you and serving you Tea that you always remembered I was a teenager and your son and I were such great friends with kindled spirits. Thank you for your kind spirit…and I hope to meet you in Heaven to share another SPOT OF TEA. Respectfully, Bonnie Elizabeth
Denise Carbone
June 9, 2021, 11:38 am
I was saddened to learn of your mom’s passing, Digby. Losing your mom is so hard – there’s probably only a couple of things in life more difficult to adjust to.
As I read your contribution I thought how blessed you were to have a mom that you learned from both by the example she set and the guidance of her words. Too many people are not as fortunate in life as you were – to have a woman they call “Mom” who take the job seriously, even when the road is difficult. Mothering is a balancing act of mountains of love, responsibility and guidance… and so much more, but it sounds to me like your mom mastered the role.
Your mom is to be honored for a life well lived, for raising a fine son and rising to meet every challenge she faced. She is blessed.
My deepest condolences to you and your family. I will keep you all in prayer.
Dan Lucas Sr.
June 9, 2021, 4:51 pm
Deepest sympathy for Frank, Digby, and the rest of the family. You are all in our families prayers. Christina was an amazing human being, who lit up every room she entered. She was kind, caring, loving, charismatic, and a beautiful soul. Although she is no longer physically here with us, she is still with us, and will live on in our hearts and memories. I will always cherish the wonderful chats we had, whenever our paths crossed. Until we meet again, Rest In Peace sweet lady.
David Dooling
June 9, 2021, 6:47 pm
Moms are remarkable creatures. We are all lucky to have their unconditional love. I wish you the very best as you attempt to console yourselves. We are ever so fortunate to share our time here with our loved ones. They leave us with so many fond memories to recant later. And of course, they leave us with an undying love that goes on for all perpetuity. Bless your sweet angel. Love and peace.
Gary and Sarah Gates
June 9, 2021, 7:52 pm
Our deepest condolences to you, Gary has such memories from his younger days with you, your mum and dad. Your mum was so kind to me when we first met and Gary and I had a wonderful visit with them both when we were on our world adventure. Your mum was so proud of you. In our prayers…xxx
Veronique Shoemaker
June 10, 2021, 3:00 am
Do not stand
By my grave, and weep.
I am not there,
I do not sleep—
I am the thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints in snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle, autumn rain.
As you awake with morning’s hush,
I am the swift, up-flinging rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight,
I am the day transcending night.
Do not stand
By my grave, and cry—
I am not there,
I did not die. – Mary Elizabeth Frye (debatable author)
Bill Mora
June 10, 2021, 4:02 am
To my brother and best man. Some people may not be aware that I chose Digby to be my best man almost 10 years ago this month. I was sure almost immediately who I knew would fill that role and only after meeting him for the very first time too and never really discussing it with me, my would-be wife then knew after meeting Digby that he was the perfect candidate that I would soon choose. Not just anyone, but someone who was truly a friend in times of need. The kind of person who would be there for you no matter what he was doing. Thoughtful, caring and well-intended. Never passing judgement but supportive. Why? some people may ask is this relevant to mention this at this time. Because this is a testament of the wonderful mother Digby’s mom was and the sort of mother that it would take to raise the man, he turned out to be. Digby my dear brother you are the embodiment of the love, beauty and light she brought to the world and thankfully her legacy will live on through you, your children and in the wonderful memories we had with her.
I lived next door to Digby in Jackson Heights growing up and had the privilege of meeting Dig’s mom at an early age. She was always such a lovely person and I remember her being kind and having me over for dinner more than once, of course at Digby’s insistence. She had introduced me to her delicious Shepard’s pie that I now love to this day. I will always remember one dinner in particular where Dig had invited me over to have spaghetti, which is kind of funny when looking back but I had never been taught up until then how to eat spaghetti or really ate much of it that wasn’t out of a can. Your mother being the kind person she was and realizing that I didn’t know how to eat it correctly and myself probably looking embarrassed, simply asked me if I wanted to learn how to eat it the correct way and proceeded to show me how to as a mother would to her own child. Over time Digby and I had grown to be close friends and Digs mom would refer to herself as my 2nd Mum. Many fond memories to recount and fun times we had laughing together, especially watching Benny Hill. Indeed, she was, supportive in times of need, protective of us like a mother lion to her cubs and would always put a smile on our face with a joke.
Digby I can’t even imagine your profound loss and the pain you and Frank must be going through now. It will take time to process all of it but know I will always be here for you as will many of your friends and family.
The lord above has now embraced her and reunited her with Daddy Dig and Jo Jo but as Vera Lynn once sang, “We’ll meet again” that I’m sure of. Thank you, mum, for all the beautiful memories, thank you for my brother and my best man. Your light will forever shine on in all the lives you touched. God bless you Mum! Your 2nd son, Billy.
Geoff and Linda
June 10, 2021, 8:21 am
We have just heard of the very sad news of our lovely dear friend Dinah’s passing. We have some really lovely memories of times we have had together over the past 30 years and they never will be forgotten, we wish to send our deepest condolences to Smithy, Digby and the family. All our love from Geoff and Linda xx
Nick Monty
June 10, 2021, 11:41 am
Digby,
Although I only met your parents once or twice I vividly remember the conversations. While we talked about computers and technology it was clear to me that I was talking to extremely caring people. Within the first few minutes I could feel the positive energy flowing from their presence. Although I am certain that your mom’s understanding of most of the technical conversation may have been a little bit of a challenge she listened intently.
Every now and then, but mostly then, I come across a person that truly listens during a conversation, and is genuinely interested in someone as a person and what they’re saying. Your mom was genuine and real. I am grateful for meeting her.
In meeting new people I always try to learn something from them. Your mom reaffirmed to me the importance of listening and not always sharing your own points in a conversation. The only way to achieve this is to genuinely care about people and what they have to say.
I’m so very saddened to hear of your loss, Digby. There is a special place waiting for folks like your mom. Although she may have departed for a better place and her physical existence is no longer with you her spirit and soul will forever live on inside of yours.
Love you and miss, brother. My deepest condolences to you and your entire family.
Paddy & Brid
June 10, 2021, 12:28 pm
Digby a beautiful tribute to Dinah may she rest in peace.
Sue Terry
June 10, 2021, 1:46 pm
Di, you may no longer be with us in body but your soul and spirit will live on forever in the lives of all who knew and loved you. I have many happy memories of nights out when you lived in Borehamwood, you, Frank, Digby, my parents and myself. I can still hear your laughter, and see your amazing smile. My heart goes out to Frank, Digby and your family as they face this difficult time, we are all here for them.
Rest in peace beautiful Di
Eileen Norris-Mora
June 10, 2021, 2:20 pm
Dear Digby,
It is with a very heavy heart I send you my sympathies on the passing of your dear mother. I’ve remembered meeting her once at a super bowl party in your home. I had some interactions with her thanks to her initiation and from that I understand where you get the personality you have. She seemed to be a very down to earth tough lady. She was a friendly, smiling, loving, happy and a very proud woman. You can tell she was a proud mother and Grandmother. I could see the love and pride between you and your mom that day. I remember her sitting down next to me at the kitchen table to converse and get to know me. She made feel comfortable since I was new to your group of family and friends and even at my age still a bit shy. After speaking with her I became more interactive. She just had a way that warms the heart and puts you at ease yet you can tell there was still a good old-fashion sternest in her. From what I saw and learned that day she was the true meaning of a Good Loving Caring Mum. My only comfort to you is now she is God’s Angel looking down on you, her Grandchildren and all her loved ones and protecting them all as only a loving mother can. God Bless her and may God provide you the strength you’ll need to cope with losing your mortal mom and embracing God’s newest Angel. My Prayers go out to you, your Mum and your mom’s loved ones. May she rest in peace! Love Eileen
Frank and Kim Cabrera
June 11, 2021, 2:34 am
Digby, I am so sorry to hear about your mom! Frank and I enjoyed meeting her so many years ago. I don’t believe that she ever met a stranger. You are the product of all that she was. Her love, passion, compassion, kindness, joy unspeakable, selflessness, etc. That is her legacy. Those things are instilled within you and they have also been passed down to your children. She loved you with EVERY ounce of her being. Your dad, you and your children were everything to her! You always honored your mom in every way! You, your dad and your kids are in our prayers. We love you ♥️
Irish Catherine
June 11, 2021, 3:29 pm
To My American Mom,
You will never be forgotten in my heart. When I had no home and no where to go, you gave me, a stranger in a bar, a home in your house for 6 months while you helped me get my first apartment and a job. I will never forget the first time we met you said I had to map of Ireland written all over my face. You were truly my American Mom. You helped me get on my feet which led me to getting married and having 3 wonderful girls who visited you and your amazing husband in Florida. Through all these years we never lost touch, whether it was a phone call or card on Christmas or St. Patty’s day. I celebrate your life each and every day and hold so highly all the years I was lucky enough to have known you. You will be missed forever and for the rest of my life. You are always in my prayers and I will always be loving you. Here’s to my American mom, my friend, and the strongest woman I will ever have the pleasure of knowing. My condolences and love go out to my American Dad (Frank) and American brother (Digby). ❤️☘️
Love always, Irish Catherine
Elizabeth T. Miniter
June 12, 2021, 2:08 am
My loving Christina impacted my life so beautifully from the first day we met in Mcann’s. I was so young, and a new mom to my son Michael.
We bonded effortlessly and immediately.
Kindred spirits and soul mates for always we will be
Digby you were the pride and joy of mom. Her passion, drive, and life’s purpose was to give you a good life, and share in your happiness. All goals were met far beyond mom’s wildest dreams.
Digby, mom’s friendship meant the world to me.
Chris was a gift to this world, and her compassion will carry on through you, Digby.
Love you Chris, Digby, and you Frank, for always and forever my family you will be.
Chris chose you Frank out of all
the rest to share your lives she passionate loved you.
Nicole Rasor
June 12, 2021, 8:49 am
Digby,
What a beautifully written tribute to your Mom. I could tell the very first time I met her the admiration you had for her. She was a beautiful soul and I am blessed to have met her. Praying for you and your Dad during this difficult time. May she Rest In Peace.
Ryan
June 13, 2021, 1:56 am
You are such a beautiful soul and you raised a great son! Digby talked about you everyday and I wish we had the opportunity to meet in person! God bless!
Dylan Kerr
June 13, 2021, 3:28 pm
Christina Smith was one of the most strongest women I ever met and I always felt lucky to call her my nanny. Nanny had some amazing stories, from her sailing all over the world, her stories riding the subway, to her stories with her sisters growing up. I’m going to miss hearing them every time I saw her, and I’m also going to miss her German Pancakes! I always believed she was going to live forever, and it’s hard for me to realize she’s no longer here. I feel so grateful to have spent the time I have with you, and words couldn’t even begin to truly describe how much you meant to me. Nanny, I’m going to miss you forever, I hope whenever you are, it’s as beautiful as the person you were❤️ I love you so much.
Des Sparks
June 14, 2021, 1:29 pm
Really everything is said already. Digby, Di was my second Mum and the world has lost a inspirational and compassionate person. I will always recall the stories of our growing up. The British Legion in borehamwood. Clacton seaside trips, all of us together. Me and you Dig causing havoc as little boys. Never told off, but spoke to kindly and guided thru the wrongs we may have done. Di never got angry with us, just reassuring the right path for us too take. I know she will always be on your shoulder Bro, and continue to guide you. A truly special lady. Sleep well Di. x.
Dolly Chesterson
June 14, 2021, 7:58 pm
Auntie Di you were such an amazing person. You brought so much love and happiness to many lives. I made so many special memories with you before and after Digby was born. By the time I was a teenager I knew London like the back of my hand thanks to all the places you took me to visit and the people I met. You spread your love and kindness far and wide having friends and family all over the world. I will never forget you and your dear sister Vera is heartbroken at the news of your passing. Heaven has gained a very special angel. Rest In Peace our dear auntie Dinah your memory will live on forever ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Tony Gates
June 15, 2021, 10:05 am
M,darlin Dinah, i can only be so grateful that you let me share a lifetime with you. Our times in borehamwood in the 70,s when me and Digby were just “Little Shavers” . Your absolute welcome when i stayed with you in Queens NYC in the mid 80,s, , also when i came to you with my young family to Florida in the 00,s always your usual welcome , and i will always treasure our last lunch together, just 5 years ago , i,ll always miss your counsel and realism on family things , you,ve left me & Dig in good order Di, love & miss you m,darlin xxxx
Tony Gates
June 15, 2021, 10:06 am
M,darlin Dinah, i can only be so grateful that you let me share a lifetime with you. Our times in borehamwood in the 70,s when me and Digby were just “Little Shavers” . Your absolute welcome when i stayed with you in Queens NYC in the mid 80,s, , also when i came to you with my young family to Florida in the 00,s always your usual welcome , and i will always treasure our last lunch together, just 5 years ago , i,ll always miss your counsel and realism on family things , you,ve left me & Dig in good order Di, love & miss you m,darlin xxxxxx
She knows
June 15, 2021, 7:02 pm
We only met over the phone. It was obvious you loved your son. It got him through a rough time. It didn’t matter how far away you lived. You were his anchor. When Digby would say. ” take my phone, my mother wants to speak to you”. It felt as if I were talking to the queen. Thats the impression you made on me in just the few moments we shared.
Delia Sienna
June 16, 2021, 4:55 pm
My adopted mom Christina born on Christmas Day what else can I say, it says it all!! I met Christina when I was called to take care of Frank who was very ill at the time and I went to Florida , Digby arranged for me to stay in a four-star hotel and when I got there I ended up meeting Christina and Frank we made arrangements at the hospital for him to get home and have home care and my first night I spent with Christina we stayed up talking about her life. she was a single mom working on cruise ships meeting famous people she told me one story about Digby when he was very young and shopping in London she had him on a leash because he was so rambunctious and she said people were staring at her in a weird way, she noticed that he had escaped from the leash and she found him behind the cosmetic counter at Este Lauder pushing buttons and rang up over $1000 and the poor lady with mouth agape she said that she was so embarrassed we laughed until we cried.. Christina was a true mother she loved gave love unconditionally the way true mother should, her home was warm and inviting she was very strong and I had chosen to never return to the hotel as you can imagine, I spent remaining of my time in the company of her humble abode which was more precious to me than all the riches in the world !! Heaven has a true angel and I am so blessed to have met her , I strive each day to be like her , she is my hero ! a true blessing
Sara Fazekas
June 16, 2021, 5:22 pm
My condolences out to Digby and his family during this rough time . The world lost a beautiful person but heaven gained an angel that they so needed. Remember it’s not goodbye it’s I’ll see you again. Until we meet again my dear. And Digby I love you very much!
Dianne Sambrook
June 16, 2021, 6:23 pm
Well Auntie Dinah what more can be said you were an amazing Mom, Aunt, Sister, Nanny, and friend to many. God has gained an angel. Mum is heartbroken that she has lost her one remaining Sister but one day you will be reunited in heaven with Auntie Molly and Auntie Eileen. God bless sleep tight. Love to you Digby and your Dad Frank. Thinking of you all xxx
Gary Haley
June 17, 2021, 2:20 pm
Oh Chris the memories I have growing up come back to me often of Frank, Digby and you. Love, Love and more Love. Christmas in Jackson Heights with Dig being sent out to get me a Michael Jackson Doll? Florida at the Aztec Hotel, Disney and the Parrot Jungle. Digby in the back seat and me in the back of the hatchback? Your move to Holiday, Frank’s retirement and leaving Jackson Heights. Vacations with my mom in Tampa and Weeki Wachee Mermaids. Now you and Molly, back together like partners in crime, with my mom and dad like the old day with music and drinks, laughs and smiles. I love you rest now, till we meet again.
Sharon Kelly
June 18, 2021, 7:56 am
Our Beautiful Dinah,
You lived your life full of love, adventure and fun, with a story or laugh never far from your lips.
I will hold the memories of all our summers with you and Smithy dear and always think of you as family.
Di, who made me my first soda bread, who wrote me down the pray of St. Anthony, that I still need on a regular basis with my scatterbrain. I will cherish it even more now as it’s my little reminder of you.
I also remember when John and me stayed with you both in Florida – John just happened to mention that he liked chocolate cake and before we knew it you had knocked him one up. And that was just what you were like so kind and generous in every way.
My heartfelt condolences go out to Frank, Digby and all the family – you are in my thoughts and prayers xxx
Sean Ruane
June 19, 2021, 3:01 pm
After reading your so beautifully written tribute to your Mother I learned a lot this morning from a woman who is no longer with us through her beloved son’s words. Everything you said is true that she passed on to you. Even when you didn’t believe in yourself, something forced you to and I’m sure it was because of what your beautiful Mother instilled in you.
I first met your Mom when she was working in McAnn’s I believe, and shortly after when I slept over and awoke to something I never had before, Crumpets!
Your relationship with your Mothet was something I had never seen before because I lost mine when I was a boy. Your Mother was exactly what you said she was and showed it to me throughout the many years I knew her. She would even call me on the phone to catch up and in her later years message me on Facebook.
She always wanted great things for you and I Digby and she told me when she was 80 that she wanted ten more years to spend with you to make sure you were okay. God blessed her with twelve more and I know you took advantage of every minute.
I am deeply sorry for your loss but it is obvious she will always be with you as she was this morning teaching her second son a few things. I love you Christine and my brother Digby and his beautiful family.
Rest in peace Ma. Your sacrifices have paid off for generations to come.
Julie McNamara
June 20, 2021, 11:06 pm
I am so blessed to have met her. What a wonderful woman she was. She will be missed profoundly. May she Rest In Peace ♥️♥️♥️
Tony Langilotti
June 21, 2021, 7:34 pm
Digby,
Huge Prayers go out to you and your family during this time!!🙏🏻🙏🏻
Lord,Please keep and carry these precious people in their sadness and loss. Cover them with your great wings of love, give their weary hearts rest and their minds sound sleep. Lord, lift their eyes so that they may catch a glimpse of eternity, and be comforted by the promise of heaven. Amen
Tony Langilotti
June 21, 2021, 7:39 pm
Digby,
Huge prayers to you and your family during this time.🙏🏻🙏🏻
Lord, Please keep and carry these precious people in their sadness and loss. Cover them with your great wings of love, give their weary hearts rest and their minds sound sleep. Lord, lift their eyes so that they may catch a glimpse of eternity, and be comforted by the promise of heaven. Amen
Sue Lyons Adams
June 21, 2021, 9:22 pm
I am so deeply sorry Digby for the loss of your beautiful mother – a loving grandmother to your children and devoted wife to Frank. Your mom was a pillar of strength and managed life’s challenges with such grace. She was so full of energy and positivity and defied age. She was a truly remarkable woman. You were the light of her life and she was your constant support and greatest cheerleader. I am so grateful that I got to know her. You were so blessed to have her as a mother and I know that you were everything to her. May her love continue to lift you up and comfort you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love and healing. God Bless you all❤️🙏